The days are hurrying right up to that mark of a year of healing from chemo. After that final treatment, I lived into a little lull where I allowed myself to believe that all would be okay again, but the need for surgery roared up, too. Much as I fought against this — and, honestly, my fighting was from fear of a horrible outcome and, perhaps even more, if I’m dead honest, was my terror of YET MORE PAIN — but as I said, much as I fought against this, I eventually ended up back at Dartmouth in a hospital bed, my daughters beside me wondering when the heck this was going to end. That huddle of surgeons appeared. It was, after all, a teaching hospital.

I said no. The surgeon said, I put you on Tuesday’s schedule. Doubtlessly, he was satisfied to finally, after those months, to get to work repairing me. I stared out the window and knew there was no way I would ever make it home. So I said yes.

But a year… a year ago, I was somewhat seeing a man who was more interested in me than I was in him. I was interested in admiring the daffodils and learning to walk again. I was interested in never returning to the hospital again. I had other things on my mind, too. I was rewriting a book, and, since I had lived, I had to start earning a living again.

It’s been a remarkable year, suffused with radiant joy, with gratefulness to walk and eat and read and write and sleep—without pain. And a year filled, too, with the darkest thoughts I’ve ever experienced, as if the cancer had broken every inhibition, allowed me to feel and fear all the rottenness I’ve kept away for so long. This is not something I’ve written about here, but I keep bearing in mind my oncologist’s prescription: Go and live your life, Brett. A year later, the word that surfaces is fragility. I live in a world that bandies resilience—resilience of soul, resilience of Flood Ready Vermont!, resilience of community and systems. A year later, I know intimately the thinness of energy and health, the scantness of my days, your days, our days. All of it, I know; live all of it, such largess.

“The society to which we belong seems to be dying or is already dead. I don’t mean to sound dramatic, but clearly the dark side is rising. Things could not have been more odd and frightening in the Middle Ages. But the tradition of artists will continue no matter what form the society takes. And this is another reason to write: people need us, to mirror for them and for each other without distortion-not to look around and say, ‘Look at yourselves, you idiots!,’ but to say, ‘This is who we are.” — Anne Lamott