Shift in POV.

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(photo G Stanciu)

My daughter sends word and photos of walking on Lake Champlain, frozen hard. I send word back, Be mindful! For those of us who love to swim and lounge on lakes and ponds, walking on the ice in the dead of winter is exhilarating, a flip in view in these cold months.

11 degrees this morning when I rise in the dark and shovel ashes from the woodstove while the cats mewl a protest for breakfast. I’m still thinking of those photos, and how it feels to have the cold air descend on your cheeks and walk that border between hypothermic water and all that sky. In a troubled winter I worked in a nearby town, I’d walk on the lake’s ice at noon and lie down and stare up at the sky. There were a few ice fishing shanties, never a sign of anyone, just me and the crows, all ice and the limitless sky and whatever the heavens had to offer. Sometimes spitting snow, sometimes endless blue, sunlight without warmth.

Heart of February. The skiing is excellent. A friend who I’ve known forever picks me up, and we walk along an ice-and-sand-strewn road. Below, the valley where the Black River and Route 14 is hidden in the folds of mountains. We look across and muse at the snow we can see on the mountains’ forest floor, how the bare trees reach up towards the sky.

Full moon:
my ramshackle hut
        is what it is. — Issa

Plunging through….

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I drive a friend home, and we linger in my car, talking. She asks me what makes an individual an individual. Early evening, darkness wraps around us, my headlights off, the day’s dripping icicles frozen again. The juncos and cardinals and finches that nip at my feeders have settled silently for the night. I am at the place of near-wordlessness again. I’ll be home again soon, too tired to brew tea, longing to lie down and let sleep wash over me for the night.

Nonetheless, we talk about memories and habits, the nature babies carry into this world, the inescapability of genetics. I lean forward and rest my forehead on the steering wheel.

Cancer, that relentless instructor, reshaped my appreciate for the common noun and verb—for the tangible—drove me inescapably into my body, far from ideology into the ineffable appreciation of swallowing water, the comfort of visiting friends, sunlight on my face.

In northern Vermont, we are again in the prolonged season of start-and-stop-and-start again, the loosening from ice on back roads, the freeze again, the steadily warming and lengthening light. On this road, I meet an acquaintance and his sweet little dog. We walk together for a bit, speculating about schools and consolidation and possibilities that perhaps will never transpire. Meanwhile, the dog sets her small muddy paws on my knee. I crouch down and rub her velvety ears. The cold breathes from the dirt road, the turning earth’s exhalation.

“… this life is not a gate, but the horse plunging through it.” — Jane Hirshfield

Stars as a trail of crumbs.

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When I was a little child, age six or so, I lay awake before sleeping and wondered at the borders of the darkness. My sister, brother, and I shared a room that seemed vast, although now I remember the footprint of that townhouse and realize my memory of that room is child-sized. Above the kitchen and entryway, the room could not have been large. Across the upstairs landing was our parents’ room with a view of the interstate and, some nights, a flickering drive-in movie screen. While my younger brother slept, my sister and I discussed the limits of infinity.

We lived there for two years. Now, I realize my parents turned 40 in that townhouse with the orange-painted metal door. In those two years, I have no memory of the stars in that place, an odd thing given that the night constellations are my earliest memory, my father parking our Volkswagen bug on a roadside, and my mother admiring how the Santa Fe city lights mirrored the stars.

The night before I realized I had cancer I stood on a back road in rural Vermont. It was late autumn, and, my God, how the country dark gleams its power, how radiant the ineffably distant stars. I carried that memory with me as I descended into the depths of profound illness. A few nights ago, over a year after that autumn night, I parked in Montpelier and walked along the sidewalk that was mostly empty in the sharp cold. Small lights gleamed in the closed-up shops—the candy store, the bookshop, the AT&T outlet. The stars pierced the night: sacred and profane illumination. The cold drove me back to my car, and my headlights showed me the way over the low mountains, back home again. I’d left my porch light on. I stood on my step for a moment, shivering. I was more perceptive as a child, before language encouraged me to divide the world into categories. Wonder. For this moment, nothing but wonder.

“Sometimes I think we can learn everything we need to know about the world when we read fairy tales. Be careful, be fearless, be honest, leave a trail of crumbs to lead you home again.”
― Alice Hoffman

Bake and eat your cake.

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I ask a few friends to eat leftover birthday cake on a cold afternoon. But my house is warm, or at least in the living room with the woodstove toasty and the sun streaming in and my two cats stretched out on the rug, appreciative of company.

While we talk, I remember that, a year ago, I was in a rotten funk, after another hospital stay, a chemo infusion delayed, and a growing fear-bordering-terror that I might never escape the cancer patient status. I did. Hallelujah—and again, hallelujah. In those sleepless nights, I read the New York Times, including a great deal of NYT cooking.

My parents taught me to cook, and I’ve been preparing meals my entire life, raised two kids on homemade bread, stirfrys, shepherd’s pie, focaccia with handfuls of herbs from my garden, but I couldn’t bake a cake worth the four-letter name. A year ago, I could eat about six things, including Saltines and hard-boiled egg yolks and broth. While my body was, actually, starving, I read about cooking, a variation of trapped in a tent on a polar exploration while a months-long storm raged.

It was clear to me that I couldn’t bake a cake because I didn’t follow the directions, but here I was, following to a precise T my oncologist’s directions, or as best I could. The upshot is that, weirdly, having cancer taught me to read the pesky directions and bake a decent cake. This does not translate to the whole of my life; I’ve saved my patience for writing and enduring long walks in the cold. But for baking the occasional cake? Read the directions, choose a decent recipe, and don’t rush.

“When it comes to most skills, failure is the only way to become better at something. Knitting teaches you that. You may have to unwind all of your stitches and start anew. That doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your time. You learn from every stitch, even those that don’t amount to anything. All writers should be made to knit a hat before they start writing a novel. It would help with understanding the importance of revision, and that the process is what can bring you the most joy.”

~Alice Hoffman

Making more tracks than necessary…

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I’m standing on a dirt road, looking up at the blue sky unblemished by any smear of cloud as my friend wraps a scarf around her face, when a Subaru speeds over the crest. Jolted, I lurch to the roadside.

$750k in cancer treatments and I’m felled by wrong-place, wrong-time on an otherwise untraveled back road? Not this afternoon.

Bitter cold warnings jam the local news. In snow-drenched Vermont, February marks winter’s swing, where the daylight begins to rush back, the light tinged with warmth, suffused with this second-half-of-winter’s promise that seeds will stir again. In the meantime, I take off my mittens as we walk and talk about writing and people and the value of a precise query letter.

We step aside for intermittent vehicles, a silver pickup, a friend’s Prius, a Corolla with split exhaust. A year ago, I’d been sprung from a stay at Dartmouth-Hitchcock and returned to my cancer-and-chemo habits that shifted from bed to couch to what felt like a Herculean effort to open my notebook at the kitchen table and scrawl a few lines, my shaky pencil a balloonist’s line that tethered me to the world. What I didn’t know then was that the hard things I’d endured in my life, some of my making, some not so (sobriety, a divorce, selling a house and lighting out for new territory with my daughters, writing and selling books, the pandemic, the constant wear of subpar home economics), was training for the next 10 weeks. In what is now a blur of that back-and-forth from home to Dartmouth, at one point my oncologist’s eyes widened just the slightest; I wondered if my life was tapering to its end. Was my body about to be driven under?

But not last winter. Not this sunny afternoon, either. What rich luck to walk on a Vermont ridgeline road, the snowy mountains in the distance, finches in a roadside maple. To work, to share a plate of roasted salty Brussels sprouts with a friend, bake a chocolate cake for my daughter’s birthday.

I will never escape this cancer, whether I live a year more or thirty. Its fearsome and awesome power churns through my heart. How it revealed unequivocally to me the brutality and dearness of this world.

Meanwhile, as I cherish these days, these hours and minutes, the country where I live hemorrhages, the last moment of a man’s life pounding through the chaos, his words to a stranger, “Are you okay?” illuminating suppurating wounds. All the things, sadness and delight and such sorrow, the radiant sunlight. Each of us, moving along our paths: separate, together.

Be like the fox
who makes more tracks than necessary,
some in the wrong direction.
Practice resurrection.
― Wendell Berry

The taste of fallen leaves, pond water, crumbly earth…

/ Brett Ann Stanciu / 1 Comment

In any lifetime, there are dividing events, the Before, the After. In my years, the most recent schism is Before Cancer and Everything Else. But the most profound? Before Motherhood, and the clanging, crying, joyous Everafterward, my truest realm. Happiest of birthdays; spring is in the offing, darling. 

A child is born and doesn't know what day it is.
The particular joy in my heart she cannot imagine.
The taste of apricots is in store for her. — Nan Cohen