A number of years ago, I was eating lunch in a friend’s kitchen while the kids played in the yard or barn or spread out on the living room floor with some game involving shards of bark from firewood. Whatever the kids were doing.

A man I had just met was eating lunch, too. His wife was expecting her first baby, and he was eating his quesadilla nervously. My friend’s husband counseled him: You’re going to feel like splitting at some point during the labor, but whatever you do, don’t do that. Stick around.

My god, the work that goes into parenting. My oldest married her beloved last weekend. Life is so many things: long as an hourless day, short as an inhale. Changeable. I had expected joy. What I had not expected was profound contentment, like an afternoon of sunlight. There’s all those platitudes — of watching this daughter learn to run and walk, the years of mothering through all weather — but for this afternoon, our world paused. For a moment, just two families at a round table, raising drinking glasses, cheering life.

Today when rain leaps to the waiting of roots in their dryness

Today when starlight bends to the roofs of the hungry and tired

Today when someone sits long inside his last sorrow…

Let the vow of this day keep itself wildly and wholly

Spoken and silent, surprise you inside your ears

Sleeping and waking, unfold itself inside your eyes

Let its fierceness and tenderness hold you

Let its vastness be undisguised in all your days — Jane Hirshfield