By now, we’ve settled into a string of days, weeks, maybe months, of my work folding into my daughter’s life at home. I work; she does whatever passes for virtual high school. I drink coffee. She eats trail mix. She’s borrowed her sister’s camera, taken a few online mini classes, and then heads out.
Among the many, many strange things about this Stay Home order is that the three of us have managed to get along so well, despite my intermittent weeping woods walks. Crabby me — with my endless laptop hours — my teen who fantasizes about driving to the California coast, and her sister, age 21, who relinquished moving out, to stay with us. As a divorced parent, I don’t take getting along as any given. In all the unexpected silver linings in all of this, there’s this interesting turning inward, back to the home, when so much in our culture has pushed us outward, away from home.
Like everything, I know this time won’t last — and there are many things about it I won’t miss — the utter uncertainty of work and money, the isolation from other adults, a public world of masks and frightened eyes. But baking potato rollswith the teen? That I’m happy to do.
Instant coffee, for example, is a well–deserved punishment for being in a hurry to reach the future.
— Alan Watts
6 thoughts on “Melting Butter, Hot Rolls”
So relate. As a single mom to a 15 year old girl, the fact that we genuinely like each other is not lost on me. This is hard on both of us in different ways, but I cannot overlook the fact that I’m getting bonus Mom-time at an age when they are normally pulling away. I plan on treasuring the extra time as a gift.
Thanks for swapping the single mother story! Hang in there!
I wish I could have all my family here under one roof, but they all have their own lives. Likely, and hopefully, this time will never come again so continue to cherish it. Hot rolls and butter sound like the perfect way to do so.
Let’s definitely hope this is a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Once is enough for me!
You always find great quotes.
I read a lot of Alan Watts as a teenager…!