Of Tacos and the Inner Life

The after school kid topic today was how many tacos were eaten at lunch.  The girls each ate two.  The younger brother ate three.  Another child at the table quit after four. Teacher?  Four, apparently.  A fifth grade boy claimed the prize with eight.  Pondering this impossibility, the girls drew a diagram of how large his stomach might be and sandwiched in eight hand-drawn tacos.  A variation of anatomy, in the elementary school world, complete with graphic illustrations.

Don’t days sometimes seem a collage of pieces, one funkily shaped thing pressed in against another?  In my realm today of concrete things — washing dishes and writing tech bits, things I could hold in my hand — I had a conversation with one person about some of the deepest things in my life, a literal spading up of soul debris.

Aren’t the best novels that way, too, filled with the physicality of action and the deeper layers that turn our lives one way or another?  Surely, we’re shaped by the trees in our yards, maybe the nubs of apples fattening up that we finger every afternoon, or the roads we drive along particular rivers, watching their levels rise and ebb, or the patchwork quilt we smooth over a bed, every morning.  But within this, too, are the murkier regions of desire and raw longing, of resentment’s ice and anger’s torrents, and even when our surface belies a calmness, our inner workings foment.

Writing sifts down through those unclear, swirling layers, and tries to make sense of the impossible, accordions us out so we may see less of a mosh and something resembling sense. Know thyself, Socrates advised.  Writing arrows toward that knowing.

How would eight tacos fit into one boy?  We stretch, children.

THE LAYERS
Stanley Kunitz

…In my darkest night,
when the moon was covered
and I roamed through wreckage,
a nimbus-clouded voice
directed me:
“Live in the layers,
not on the litter.”
Though I lack the art
to decipher it,
no doubt the next chapter
in my book of transformations
is already written.
I am not done with my changes.

Photo by Molly S.

Photo by Molly S.

Watering in the Rain? What?

This cold and rainy Sunday morning, I was in the hoop house watering tomato plants when I saw a wild turkey picking its way across our small field.  The field, recently harrowed and seeded with peas, was mucky from a deluge the night before, so the turkey lifted its feet in the turkey’s funny variation of high-stepping.  With its long neck and tail, it’s a lot of bird.  After a few seeds, the bird, apparently alone, disappeared into the woods with its already lush fern undergrowth.

While the turkey was going about its meal gathering, I appeared to be doing an essentially crazy thing — watering in wet weather.  And yet, I’ll continue to do so, for reasons that partly make sense to me.  It’s that “partly make sense” aspect that often seems to jam up human life.  On the one hand, I want the tomatoes, and this is my experience of how most effectively grow tomatoes in my patch of Vermont; on the other hand, watering in the rain is just plain nuts.

While I would never describe myself as a relativist, one of the greatest appeals of literature is the way writing explores that edge, that nether realm between the hard shores of certainty.

My ten-year-old recently determined, with the assistance of a teacher, that she is precisely the right height for her age.  She informed me of this conclusion while brushing her teeth that night, in her practical and pragmatic way of looking at the world:  here I am, exactly where I want to be.  Her sister scoffs at this kind of knowledge — why would you believe numbers? you’ll either grow or not — but my younger child sees a validity in numbers her sister does not.  My older daughter tends to view the world as wildly awry with the vagaries of fate, but to my younger daughter, the world is dictated by precision and certainty, and I could see the succor she justly took from that knowledge.   Her fears that she will be very small (like me) were mitigated by this calculation.  Each of my two children, blood sisters, has a radically different method of mapping and understanding the world.  Neither of these would I at all disparage; they are both genuine ways of understanding, albeit diametrically opposed.

Yet — can I generalize? — by adulthood those shores of certainty are often shaken, if not downright abandoned.  In what way will we know the world?  What will serve as our compass in troubled weather?  I see literature as precisely that compass, a complex and sometimes incomprehensible tool, a map, convoluted at times, to get us out of Tom Sawyer’s cave.

… the evening the kingfisher fell… I held
(it) in my hands,
I touched its blue power.
That may be the only time
I ever do so.

What I held was more precious
than handfuls of money.
If I could have restored it
to wind, I would have.

What to do
with the wild pain?

…Give it back,
all of it, and go home.

“Kingfisher” in A House of Branches, Janisse Ray

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Salt, Not Sentimentality

Every afternoon, I drive to pick up my younger daughter at school, and just as I leave the small town of Hardwick, right where the wetlands begin, I pass the construction site of a Dollar General store.  Apparently, the presiding view is that the town needs more cheap stuff.  I wouldn’t presume to criticize what people are or are not buying, but it’s worth noting that the outer landscape of Hardwick has appreciably changed.

In Vermont, landscape is a word often bandied about as if landscape is background for work or play — the landscape with Jersey cows mentality — but landscape is the point, as the cows, and the maples along the dirt roads, and the ridge lines, are actually inseparable from who we are.

This Dollar General feeds a real appetite in our society, this need to consume stuff, a great deal of it, and preferably as cheaply and abundantly as we can.  It’s an ugly aspect of our society, disguised and ameliorated somewhat by its genericness.  Richard Yates, in one of my most favorite novels, Revolutionary Road, wrote “this whole country’s rotten with sentimentality” — this notion of flatlining the culture under the Almighty General of the Dollar.  Writing — art — by and large pursues the antithesis of what capitalism champions, which is perhaps why art and literature are so belittled and disparaged in our society.  But to adhere to this generic status quo, to feed ourselves commercial products from boxes and cans rather than what grows in the farm down the road or in your own window boxes, to judge ourselves in terms of tax brackets, or nourish our inner lives with dullness, diminishes us.  Revolutionary Road epitomizes the longing of Frank and April Wheeler to break out of the constraints of upwardly middle class American life — to follow their hearts’ desires in opposition to everyone around them — and depicts the Wheelers’ crushing failure to achieve this.

But, unlike the suburban Wheelers, I luckily live in Vermont.  I drive up the narrow, shaded gulch, pass two slivers of lakes, and then I’m in the little village of my town. Architecturally, the elementary school is a far distance from the dollar store.  Over a hundred years old, no public elementary school would be built like this today, all wood and windows, with two enormous brick chimneys, and pressed tin interior walls.  The schoolhouse is dropdead gorgeous, built with craft and care.

All buildings, in their own ways, have resonance and depth, holding the stories of their people within them.  But this lovely schoolhouse hums with beauty, too.  Does this landscape of light and wood matter to my child?  This setting in a literary world?  Here’s how deeply this landscape presses into my child:  when I see my girl at the end of her school day, I often touch my face to the top of her head and kiss her.  All day we’ve been apart, she to fourth grade, and I at my work.  My daughter’s hair has the colors of a wheatfield, myriad and rich, lighter with sun strands in these warming days.  All afternoon and into the evening, her hair has one distinctive scent.  My older daughter says, Crayons, mom, it’s crayons.  All elementary schools smell like that.  But it’s not crayons.  In my kitchen I have a mason jar of good salt, pink-hued, and every night, cooking dinner, I unscrew that jar and add salt.  Salt:  the mineral Gandhi used to launch a revolution.  The mineral vital to human life. When I kiss my daughter’s hair, breathing in her day, that’s what I smell:  salt.

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Why Read Literature, Anyway?

For my seventeenth birthday, my dad gave me a slim copy of Point of Departure, a slim collection of nineteen stories of adolescence.  That was back when you could buy a paperback for a buck and a half, read the book over and over, and the pages wouldn’t fall out.  Thirty years later, I still have this book.  Some of these stories I read over so many times, I could reiterate passages.  “A Summer’s Reading” pointed me to Bernard Malamud.  Even though I didn’t grow up in a city, I could envision myself, like the main character, George, skulking around the nighttime summer streets.  Updike’s “A&P”? What I wouldn’t have given to have sashayed through those aisles.

At seventeen, I was fortunate to have the world seem so inherently possible.  The options for my life were so manifold and mysterious, and, frankly, much like my own adolescent daughter now, I couldn’t wait to step into my future.

But two scenes in these stories resonated most powerfully, and tonight I found them immediately.  One was in a Saroyan story, “Seventeen.”  At the story’s end, the mother calls to the father that their son is crying.  The boy had a profound experience of grief and uncertainty — “the impossibility of laughter” — and the mother realizes their son is entering adulthood.  The second scene concludes the Nadine Gordimer story, “A Company of Laughing Faces.”

The girl heard, but felt no impulse to tell her mother — knew, in fact, that she would never have the need to tell anyone the knowledge that had held her secure since the moment she looked down into the lagoon:  the sight, there, was the one real happening of the holiday, the one truth and the one beauty.  

This one truth and one beauty, assuredly, is not a photo-opt view of the Grand Canyon or a rosy sunset; the girl discovers a drowned boy in a lagoon.  These stories center on adolescents who experience a complex shift in paradigm, from childhood’s relatively cosseted innocence to the substantially more dynamic range of adulthood.  Yet, in each of these nineteen stories thrums the heartthrob of beauty.

That’s my two cents on the appeal of literature:  relentless quest for wisdom suffused all the way through — even when it aches — with beauty.

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Becoming

This clayey soil, so poorly suited to vegetable farming, and yet:  here I live.  Just a few years back, this was a forest of mixed hardwoods, an understory of ferns and trilliums and trout lilies.  We cleared this patch, picked a mountain of stones, pulled roots that fiercely clung to their ground.  This patch of earth has endured six consecutive seasons of lime, manure, alternating cover crops of peas, oats, buckwheat.  My efforts with shovel and compost yield good results, but this will never be the midwest’s fabled topsoil.

Our guests on this Memorial Day, first time visitors to our house, were gracious, companionable, and — best of all — engagingly funny.  Fine croquet players, too.  Walking through the garden and its evening black flies, they said they could see how beautiful the garden could be.  Listening, I realized how all in my head my garden currently lies.  These early leaves of broccoli plants, these carrot seeds, the pea fences, the bean poles, the tomato plants just nestled in their beds, the basil hardly more than scraps of green debris.  A month along, and this story will be wholly different.  Knee high much of the garden will be, the peas beyond my waist.

But for now, this is all rough potential, a lumpy pile of manure, the arch of the sunflower house not yet sown, the sweet peas that by July will trail fragrantly over this half circle not yet germinated.  Faith is in the potential, sown in the experience that becoming will persevere in becoming.

Gardening, nothing is as simple as bury a seed in the soil and gather a handful of sweet peas X number of days hence.  Too much or too little rain, weeds, insects, animals, a running toddler, all create havoc with this orderly plan.  Or, my orderly plan.  The universe has perhaps an entirely different notion altogether.  Which made me think of this line:

…. emotions are essentially physical forces, and if they seem to express themselves at the strangest moments, it is because, like physical forces, they must sooner or later emerge….  (Allen Shawn, Twin)

In this spring season of raw, harrowed up earth, what will emerge from my garden soil? In writing, what will emerge from a rough draft, if I sow seeds and step back to appraise? What’s different from what I had intended?  Have pumpkin seeds from the compost volunteered into the brassica, determined to take root?  I opened my garden gates for these new neighbors, the youngest of this family a little boy who repeated one of his few words over and over tonight:  look, look, look.  Look, I whispered to my daughter tonight, brushing my finger over the line on her upper arm where her skin turns from white to nut-brown from her playing hours in the sun.   In what ways will these newly-met people shape and turn our lives?

What is essential is invisible to the eye.  This piece of Vermont earth has thawed.  A gentle rain falls on the tin roof outside my opened window.  The universe, seen and unseen, shifts.

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Fishing My Place in the River

This morning, my daughter’s friend tapped the fishtank and remarked, “Fish are like birds.”

Busy picking up stray socks or something, I nodded and said, “Right, yeah, they’re all in the animal kingdom.”

But something made me turn and look and forget those socks for a moment.  Kneeling beside the tank, the girl’s face stared upward at the water, mesmerized by the gray and bright copper fish a neighbor had gleaned from his pond a few years back.  “Birds are up in the trees.  Fish are in the water.”  This could have been one of those well, duh moments, but the girl was so transfixed.  Maybe what she was seeing was fish hovering in the water, birds fluttering through the air, and us — the human world — plodding along earthbound.

In a recent New Yorker, Sharon Olds writes of her friend Galway Kinnell’s death:

… you fish your side

of the river, I’ll fish mine, you said

it meant – and I can see us, decades,

fishing both sides of the river,

together, sharing the catch.

Writing, as John Cheever famously said, is not a competitive sport.  Where I fish in my shallow part of the river shouldn’t impinge on your territory.  Why not eat each other’s fish and poems?  This girl reminded me that I should push the map of my world deeper and wider, beyond my daily geography.  The natural venue for birds is air, for fish water. Sharon Olds and Galway Kinnell knew a territory where a river of poetry looped through, a wild terrain where they worked separately and yet together partook of the river’s bounty.

All this poetry aside, the girl also remarked, “This fish tank really needs to be cleaned.” On that, too, I concur.

Photo by Molly S.

Photo by Molly S.