Author: Brett Ann Stanciu

Inoculation, Fallacy, and the Sacred.

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A few years back, I did a joint reading with a woman who claimed she had discovered an inoculation for kids to prevent drug and alcohol addiction. She’s way more famous than me – and has made far more money – but the premise seemed prideful to me. There’s no shot against addiction, no simple fix.

For no particular reason, I was thinking of this on a recent walk. As part of my healing, I’m determined to walk every day, through rain, shine, or wildfire smoke from Canada. Sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. Late afternoon, I was on the wooded trails behind the local high school. Hermit thrush sang their endearing notes. I spent my childhood in the New Hampshire woods. As an adult, I backpacked. My former husband and I sugared for two decades and knew our maple acres in every variation of weather.

Not so many weeks ago, exhausted from chemo and surgery, I walked crooked over. Now, my boots confident on the path, I remembered those winter visits to the ER, more out of my mind than not with pain. A frequent visitor, I requested IV Zofran, Dilaudid, fluids, in that order. The scent of saline washing through the IV tubing became synonymous for me with the near promise of breathing easily again, the temporary ability to inhabit my body.

Dilaudid promises to make whole what’s broken. How well I know this enchantment. For anyone who judges this, I reply, you endure chemotherapy, you endure the way the lymphoma choked my innards, more brutal than childbirth labor. The narcotics pulled me back from pain into the world. There was that subzero night when we drove to the ER, and my daughter and her partner kept leaning against the ER’s wall heater, while the nurses buried me under heated blankets. And the balmy midnight I sat outside the ER entrance, high as hell again, listening to the heat shield rattle on my Subaru as my sister drove around the hospital. Those nights, the dilaudid nights, are all done. May they be finished, forever, for me.

These mornings, I take vitamins, mundane, boring. There’s that trite phrase that we’re all on a journey, but so much of our lives we simply click along. The lymphoma broke that clicking-along for me, the regularity of waking up and going about the day. Now, on these daily walks, I hold to this sacredness, this euphoria.

“One morning in April, I woke up a little sick. I lay there looking at shadows on the white plaster ceiling. I remembered a long time ago, when I lay in bed beside my mother, watching lights from the street move across the ceiling and down the walls. I felt the sharp nostalgia of train whistles, piano music down a city street, burning leaves. A mild degree of junk sickness always brought me the magic of childhood. It never fails, I thought, just like a shot; I wonder if all junkies score for this wonderful stuff.”

~ William S. Burroughs, Junky

“Where are you going?”

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Photo above taken in a courtyard garden at Dartmouth-Hitchcock. Inside the building, there’s a short flight of stairs to a sunroom. Glass doors lead to the garden. Much of this winter, I couldn’t walk those half-dozen steps. When I finally could, I proofread my daughter’s college essays in the sunroom. We stared out at the blowing snow and wondered what grew in the spring garden.

Today, mid-June, an appointment of good news. The Good Doctor reminds me that I’ve finished treatments, that I’m in remission. Go on and live your life. Gain weight and muscle.

I’ve been so far out of the everyday world that, after this appointment, waiting in a gas line, seems like a small event. For some reason, I remembered the gas station a few miles from my father’s house in Santa Fe, New Mexico. On a random summer morning, I pumped gas and then stood for a moment, breathing in the spiciness from the station’s kitchen vent and staring up at the flawlessly blue sky. The desert’s hot breath touched my cheeks, my hands, my bare knees – at once so familiar to me (my birthplace the New Mexican desert) and enchantingly unknown. The day lay before us like a pie that could be cut any which way, and the result would be enjoyable.

That’s how I felt, leaving the cancer center, walking up the stairs in the parking garage – light – as if I had shed that caul of cancer and pain. I mean nothing easy or innocent about this lightness. One afternoon when I could barely walk around the high school, I sat in a friend’s car and imagined myself as gray – my face ashen, my bones crumpling to cinders. I wondered how I would survive. In December, wandering the halls of yet another hospital, I turned around and couldn’t recognize the only other person in the hallway, my friend Jo who was even calling my name. “Brett, where are you going?”

Living with cancer taught me that we are not creatures of the mind; we live in our bodies. Cancer may return in my flesh this summer, two years from now, or never. I may perish falling down stairs, or expire as an old woman in my bed beneath a quilt my mother sewed. Any hubris I once had about eating organic brown rice and my garden’s bounty vanished this winter; mortality’s blade is ubiquitous, final.

Nonetheless, this day…

Driving home on the interstate, my daughter and I mused about hurried drives through snow to the ER, the repeated treks, northward, home, where we scrutinized roadside trees for the faintest blush of spring green. This time, my daughter pointed out patches of lupines, purple and pink and white, sure sign of summer.

You must do something to make the world more beautiful.

~ Barbara Cooney, Miss Rumphius

Do Two Things at Once.

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Walking on a trail beside the Lamoille River, my daughter points out a snapping turtle, a giant creature, its head tucked in, watchful. Her partner reminds us that he grew up in a village where snappers took over the elementary school playground to plant their spring eggs. An inherent element of that school’s curriculum was try to get along with other beings.

The irises and rhododendron bloom profusely. Rain falls, chilly, for much of the day. In the late afternoon, the sun emerges. I cut back the hostas alongside my house to stave off the wet and rot. By late afternoon, I’m finished with my work and chores. I hang out on the porch, read, drink my cocktails of ice water and lemon. Listen to Nina Totenberg.

A month out from surgery, six weeks from chemo, I met a friend for coffee. We talk cancer and community, about the joys of traveling overseas and shifting perspective. Myself, I will be traveling near to home this summer, most of it by foot. Each day, I walk more and more, reclaiming my strength. As next year’s woodpile is transported into my barn (thank you, thank you, kind wood mover), I imagine planting a garden on that emptied place. As a younger woman, I believed vegetable gardening would change my world. I wasn’t wrong; Red Russian kale and bull’s blood beets fed my growing children for years. But blossoms and bushes and trees nourish the wild (and me, too).

I live on a hillside where hungry young woodchucks run rampart. Not so long ago, I considered the chucks my enemies. Now, having endured the scorched-earth transformation of chemo and cancer, I worry far less about these sleek-furred creatures. By summer’s end, I know the foxes thin this population. In the meantime, I slowly go about that repetitive work of weeding and mulching, and the visioning research of transforming lawn into wildflowers.

My coffee companion reminds me to take my time and take risks. Who wants to take risks after surviving cancer treatments? Answer: why not, why not? Dig more gardens. Contemplate the woodchucks. Plant coreopsis to replace the hollyhocks holes from the woodchucks’ foraging… Do two things at once: go with the flow and keep paddling.

White peonies blooming along the porch
send out light
while the rest of the yard grows dim.

Outrageous flowers as big as human
heads! They’re staggered
by their own luxuriance: I had
to prop them up with stakes and twine.

The moist air intensifies their scent,
and the moon moves around the barn
to find out what it’s coming from.

In the darkening June evening
I draw a blossom near, and bending close
search it as a woman searches
a loved one’s face.

~ Jane Kenyon, “Peonies at Dusk”

Seeking the Something New.

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A friend arrives with a box of seedlings, including tithonia, AKA Mexican sunflowers, a tall, brilliantly orange, hopeful plant. A few mornings later, more friends appear with seedlings and a pitchfork. Lucky, lucky me.

I am a gardener who allows the Johnny-jump-ups and forget-me-nots to spread where they like, pulling back a few and nestling in basil, scallions, poppies. Why unroot a flower? Eventually, I weed diligently, ruthlessly. The garden mirrors my approach to novel writing. My friends leave with their boxes filled with forget-me-nots as a gentle rain falls on the tender seedlings.

Every day is a further day from surgery and chemo, the days and night accumulating like pages read in a book. I put away the narcotics, the Tylenol, the ibuprofen. Mornings, I drink a single cup of café au lait. I sauté mushrooms, bake a quiche. I ask for a ride to drop off my car at the garage, worrying about walking up my hill, but picking it up is mostly downhill. I walk.

For a little bit yet, I’m a person of interest in this small town. The postmistress asks me, no, really, how are you? For months, the PO staff has stuffed my box with cards and books and sheaves of medical bills from two hospitals. I’m there to pick up a book of essays (a gift which quickens my heartbeat). I tell her I’m in remission, that word still awkward as it emerges from my throat. I want to add that remission does not mean cured, does not mean that this strange and uninvited cancer beast has left my body – and certainly not my soul. I don’t know this woman at all well, but she looks steadily at me, as if she understands what I’m thinking.

Here’s the thing: how afraid I was of cancer eight months ago; honestly, I’m still fearful of it. Yet, cancer rooted in me, infested my family, my friends, a great wide circle of people around me, including my readers here. This is not unique. In its myriad forms, cancer spreads widely. I lived for years with the putrifying secrets of addiction. I refuse to repeat that with cancer.

Last November, I thought I wouldn’t live to see spring. I did. If jaywalking doesn’t do me in, cancer certainly might. Or I might die as a scrawny old woman from a stroke or heart attack. In this rainy late spring/early summer, I’m grateful for the possibly random dice throw, for plants and gardeners, for an infinitude of people. Among these are the people who’ve shared their stories with me, of decades-ago cancer diagnoses, almost always offered sotte voce, as if not to tempt the fates. Their stories ring clearly: I endured, I transformed, I thrived. This possibility can be mine (maybe yours, too).

From Suleika Jaoad’s The Book of Alchemy:

But there are also moments when our internal compasses tell us it’s time to change course–to leave something behind and build something new…. Rebuilding is not easy…. But to me, rebuilding unfolds alongside becoming. It is crucial, if we want to keep evolving and flourishing, to get rid of things that are no longer serving us and make space for something new to grow.

Under a Thousand Stars.

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Walking home, I spy a smattering of white blossoms among a stand of pines, off the path. That short stretch is a strange area, more sand than soil, unusual on my Vermont hillside. Running theory is that someone stripped the top soil, years ago. Although I haven’t energy in excess, I’ve enough that I wander from the path. The blossoms are wild strawberries. Sweet mark of June.

For those not in New England, the common gripe is the weather. Every weekend, rain. Figures are tossed that there’s not been a fully sunny weekend since December; then I hear November. As for me, recovering, the days and weeks merge. Now, three weeks out from surgery, I’m easing back into work. The cats wake me at early light. In recovery, my old worries rekindle, but so does my drive and curiosity. I get up, eat cereal and maple syrup, brew coffee. I spread the manuscript of my fourth book over the kitchen table, cut, rearrange, stitch.

What’s changed, though, is a new slowness, a willingness to let the course of things unfold, to crouch beside those strawberry blossoms, wondering which birds will snag the tiny crimson berries. In a few weeks, I may wander here and sample this sweet delicacy. Half of this May, I lived in a hospital. Finally, I limped out the door with my brother. While he drove me home, I kept saying, “I’m out, I’m out,” and “The trees are leafing, the forsythia is blooming, the lilacs are opening.”

That surgery and that stay might likely have saved my life, again; and again, how immeasurably capable and kind was the hospital staff. Nonetheless, it’s June. The sky this morning is scrimmed over with smoke from wildfires. Under that dome, I have work to do. A friend will visit. I’ll move through this day, this Wednesday, happy.

I want to lie out

on my back under the thousand stars and think   

my way up among them, through them,   

and a little distance past them, and attain   

a moment of absolute ignorance,

if I can, if human mentality lets us.

I have always intended to live forever;

but not until now, to live now.

~ Galway Kinnell, “The Sekonk Woods”

Start again…

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Twenty years ago, I wandered on an early morning walk. Mightily pregnant, I didn’t go far, merely down to our sugarhouse and through the white pines. I looped back through the garden. I was about to have a second baby — that very day — and, second time around, I knew those solitary walks would — for an undetermined time — be a distant memory.

In a break in the rainy weather, a friend walks me through the cemetery, past the little league field, and down the hill into town. At Front Seat Coffee, she buys cookies, and we sit in the courtyard, eating and talking, the courtyard where I’ve passed so many hours with my laptop. Slowly, we walk back up the hill. Three robins perch on the elementary school’s fence.

Six weeks ago, another friend walked me to the Galaxy Bookshop, the first walk I’d taken to town since last November. I picked up a copy of Dostoyevsky at the Galaxy, and finished the novel in Dartmouth, waiting for surgery. The surgeons teased me, Why such light reading?

One more lesson from cancer: how intensified the world becomes. Slip back, start again. Repeat, repeat. But isn’t that one way of the world? There’s plenty more ways — a crash, a sudden halt, a perilous nonstop descent — but often our lives are fits and starts.

I remind myself, Try to learn something.

This day dawns overcast, broody with the promise of rain, the world lush with spring green and birdsong. To keep myself and my cats happy, I light a fire in my stove, brew coffee, consider the day. As I recover, my old demons of uncertainty have woken, too. My walking companion counseled me to narrow my energy to the actual day. Help was recently sent fortuitously to me; this morning, as I mixed powdered sugar and butter for cake frosting, I reminded myself, Be grateful; use your luck wisely. Savor this day.

At Twenty-Eight

By Amy Fleury

It seems I get by on more luck than sense,

not the kind brought on by knuckle to wood,

breath on dice, or pennies found in the mud.

I shimmy and slip by on pure fool chance.

At turns charmed and cursed, a girl knows romance

as coffee, red wine, and books; solitude

she counts as daylight virtue and muted

evenings, the inventory of absence.

But this is no sorry spinster story,

just the way days string together a life.

Sometimes I eat soup right out of the pan.

Sometimes I don’t care if I will marry.

I dance in my kitchen on Friday nights,

singing like only a lucky girl can.